A reader asked
re: talking bad about people as a red flag. In my experience, literally everyone on the planet complains about other people from time to time. this is part of normal adult social behavior as far as I can tell. someone who is constantly talking badly about others while simultaneously avoiding all confrontation is a red flag for sure, but if you wait for someone who never complains about anyone else EVER, you will be alone forever.
Yes, this is definitely true.
Everyone does and should say bad things about other people sometimes.
The red flag is when someone’s saying bad things about other’s is like – a hobby, or something. It’s hard to describe. But it’s very destructive.