There are a lot of slurs that are so ingrained into English-speaking culture that people who say them don’t always realize that they are slurs.
- People say them without meaning them as slurs, but they still hurt people
- Because people also say them as intentional slurs
- And it’s not usually obvious which is which
- And even when people genuinely don’t mean it that way, hearing slurs about your group all the time hurts
- Also, sometimes the people who are using the slur don’t know that the group it’s about actually exists
- Being erased to the point that people only know about the stereotype is also really horrible
- Often when people in the target group point out the slurs, people react badly
- Instead of apologizing and fixing it, they get angry and hostile
- And often behave in really humiliating (or even dangerous) ways towards the person who pointed it out
- Reacting that way is fairly similar to using a slur intentionally
- You can’t actually invoke a trope related to the slur without also invoking the slur in ways that hurt people it’s used against
- Even if you would never react that way, people in the target group don’t know that when you say the word.
I’m a bit uneasy about saying those words, so I’m not going to include any examples. (I’m not sure that’s the right decision, but that’s what I’m doing for this post). But if people these words are used against want to reblog with comments or send asks, that would be very welcome.
Touching someone’s wheelchair, or other mobility equipment, is a really big deal. You shouldn’t ever do this without permission.
Part of the reason this is a big deal is that most mobility equipment users experience their mobility device as part of their body. It’s invasive and bad to touch people without their permission.
But it’s actually even more wrong to touch mobility equipment without permission than it is to touch someone without permission generally.
Messing up someone’s mobility equipment means they can’t get around. It can also sometimes cause immediate injury. It can also lead to injury by making the equipment less safe to use (for instance, if you screw up someone’s cushion and they can’t afford to get it fixed right away, that could cause a pressure sore.)
Touching mobility equipment without permission is a threat to use dangerous force and hurt someone or leave them stranded. Even if you don’t mean to be threatening. Even if you think you’re helping the person. Even if you think you’d never hurt anyone. It’s never ok to make another person that vulnerable without their permission (unless someone else is physically attacking you and you are in danger to the point that violent self-defense is justified.).
It’s sort of like… you don’t touch people without their permission. And you *especially* don’t grab someone without permission. And you *especially espeically* don’t put your hand on someone’s throat without permission.
Moving someone’s mobility equipment without permission is like attacking someone with handcuffs. (Or worse).
Don’t do it.