Some autistic people (and some others) have trouble with voluntary control over their bodies. This can involve having trouble initiating movement, or having a lot of uncontrolled movement, or a combination of both.
This often gets called stimming, but it’s different from some of the other concepts stimming is used to mean. It’s not the same as flapping your hands because you’re excited, or rocking back and forth, or squeezing a stress ball because it feels nice or helps with focus.
This is one thing it can look like:
- Wanting to read a book
- Having developed the motor skills necessary to hold books and turn pages
- Not currently being able to read the book because, right now, your arms won’t stop thrashing around and it’s hard to make contact with the book and when you do, your fingers won’t go where you want them and turn the pages
- And maybe you end up throwing the book if you keep trying really hard to read it
For some people who get out of control like that, doing any sort of purposeful motion can help to regain control faster.
- wadding up paper into a ball
- drawing circles
- typing scripted phrases or random nonsense
- lining up objects
- repeating a word over and over
- or any number of other things
- doing something familiar and purposeful can often help a lot
This isn’t universal among autistic people, and it’s not universal among people with movement disorders. It’s something that some people experience.
Autistic people are autistic all the time. Sometimes some difficulties fade into the background, then come back out again when someone is particularly stressed out. This is true across the board for sensory issues, communication issues, movement, and all kinds of other things. (This is also true for people with any other kind of disability).
The intermittent nature of some apparent difficulties can sometimes lead to them being misinterpreted as psychosomatic. They’re not. Everyone, autistic or not, has more trouble doing things that are hard for them when they’re experiencing significant stress. Some things are particularly hard for autistic people, and those things also get harder with stress.
This is how it actually works:
- Doing the thing always takes a lot of effort
- Putting in all that effort has become second nature
- When you’re not exceptionally stressed, you might not notice the effort it takes consciously
- When you *are* really stressed, you don’t have energy to do the thing in the ways you normally can
- So you end up having more trouble than usual, and probably looking a lot more conspicuously disabled than usual
For instance, with motor issues:
- For those of us with motor difficulties, moving smoothly and accurately takes more effort than it does for most people
- This can become second nature, to the point that we don’t consciously notice how difficult it is
- But it’s still there
- And when you’re really stressed or overwhelmed, you may not have the energy to make yourself move accurately
- So things you can normally do (eg: handwriting, not walking into walls, picking up objects, pouring water) might become awkward or impossible
- That doesn’t mean you’re faking or somehow doing it on purpose
- It just means that things are harder when you’re stressed
Or with sensory issues:
- Living with sensory sensitivities means that a lot of things hurt
- For the sake of doing things anyway, a lot of us build up a high pain tolerance
- To the point that we may no longer consciously process things as pain even though they hurt
- Ignoring pain takes a lot of energy
- When we’re really stressed, we may not have the energy to ignore pain
- And things we normally tolerate can be experienced as overloading or intolerably painful
- That doesn’t mean we’re faking the pain to avoid something stressful, or that we’re somehow bringing it on ourselves.
- It just means that everything is harder under stress, including tolerating pain
Or with communication:
- Communication can be hard for a lot of us in varying ways
- For some of us, being able to speak requires juggling a lot of things that are automatic for most people
- Or being able to use words at all, including typing
- For some of us, that’s true of understanding people when they talk to us
- Or of knowing what words are at all
- If someone can’t talk, understand or use words under stress, it doesn’t mean that they’re somehow faking it to avoid a difficult situation
- It means that communication is hard, and stress makes everything harder
Short version: Stress makes everything harder. For people with disabilities, that includes disability-related things, including things that we don’t normally seem to have trouble with. Sometimes we’re wrongly assumed to be doing on purpose or faking to avoid a difficult situation; it should actually be seen as an involuntary, normal, and expected physiological response to stress.
orima-kazooie asked realsocialskills:
…Perhaps it’s not the most subtle or polite but jerking or yanking your arm away or like just kind of jumping a little immediately as if it were reflexive can generally get the message across without upsetting people.
That’s interesting. I’m not sure how I’d do that, because I’m not sure what reads as a reflex to most people. But it sounds like a really good idea.